Letter from a mother to gelmini ..... Dear Minister Gelmini,
the other day, reading his interview in the Corriere della Sera, in which he declared that the compulsory leave after childbirth is a privilege, I was incredulos.
that she was just climbing on the problems of education, did not require a degree in pedagogy, which I own, and not you, or the three post-graduate courses, which I own, and not you, given what is combining the state school. But at least he hoped
legal skills, she being a lawyer and I do not.
course, since you are now a champion of regionalization, it is enabled in "free zone" (this of Reggio Calabria), because it is easier (as you stated with embarrassing naivete and innocence), it could be assumed.
And then, before I make a lesson of law, and then we talk about education. The abstention after il parto, sulla quale lei oggi con tanta leggerezza motteggia, è definita OBBLIGATORIA ed è un diritto inalienabile previsto da quelle leggi, per cui donne molto più in gamba di lei e di me, hanno combattuto strenuamente, a tutela delle lavoratrici madri. Discorso diverso è il congedo parentale, di cui si può fruire, dopo i tre mesi di vita del bambino, per un totale di 180g, solo in parte retribuiti integralmente. Ovviamente per persone come lei, con un reddito di oltre 150.000 euro l’anno, pari quasi a quello del governatore della California Arnold Schwarzenegger, discutere di retribuzione, in questo caso più che un privilegio, è un’eresia. Ovviamente lei non può immaginare, perché può permettersi Tate, tatin, nest "business" to the prosecutor, but ordinary people to understand that she says, has to do with endless queues to insufficient nests and babysitting costs higher than those of their salary.
I want to tell you one thing, however, aware that my statements caused most of its hype, BY EDUCATIONAL and experts, say that the mandatory benefit only a right is also a
DUTY, first of all moral and even then social.
As you can see I have repeatedly emphasized the word compulsory, which already in itself should suggest something.
But I'd better explain, even if it is necessary a small premise duty.
She like many women, believed to be the mother, although in his case a few days, give her the power to talk and pontificate on education and child development, to which great scholars have devoted years of study. In fact, debate on education, now more properly called Science of Education, must have specific skills, from his statement that she does not seem to possess. The I could talk about attachment theory of Bowlby, imprinting, and ethology, but do not want to confuse and then resort to more accessible examples. Just look at the animal kingdom to realize how the females of all species move away from the puppies and devote their maximum attention and care until weaning is not a specific law relating to human, but all of nature. Procreate, in fact, involves specific responsibilities, is a lifestyle choice, that if you change animal behavior, LESS REASON FOR CHANGE THE LIFE OF A WOMAN.
be mistaken to believe that the arrival of a child, does not lead to changes in their lives.
A child does not ask to be born, have a child is not a whim to take off, but a choice of service, the gift of themselves and also of their time. Are not the children that must fit into our lives, we who must change to make it to suit them.
If we do this, we could make raising children alone, without self-esteem and little self-confidence. Children hungry for attention, because he did not care was given enough when they had greatest need, ie the first months of life. The idea that they do not understand anything that does not perceive the difference as between a mother's womb and a bottle of the nanny, is ours alone. This does not mean that all bottle fed babies, or that all children with parents who return to work immediately, they will be misfits. But we must do our best to make them grow well, as when taking the folic acid in pregnancy to prevent the "spina bifida". I Children have a clear perception, already in the womb. The idea that if you do not have to cry in his arms "because they are accustomed to arms," \u200b\u200bis a cliché. The "habits" are coming after 6 months, until then it's all love. It is no coincidence that recent studies, rehabilitate the cosleeping (sleeping in Latvian) and the best pediatricians support the choice of breastfeeding on demand. The framing will educate children as soldiers, since the first days of life, is not only antisocial, because a generation raised without respect for its pace of growth may be unavoidably affected, but behavior is outside the most basic human and natural rules.
Then it is also true that many women return to work immediately after childbirth is an absolute necessity.
But this problem should sufficiently address the state and not with statements such as his.
I realize that her job allows her to leave the child, interviews of this kind (which we did not feel the need) and comfortable to go with his daughter. But there are jobs that require time and a physical and mental fatigue that she does not know. Time that would inevitably be taken to a baby who needs a mother "fresh", which devotes the greatest attention. We women in fact, they often need to ci comportiamo come Wonder Woman, poi siamo colpite da sindrome di sovraffaticamento
E non è vero che è importante la qualità e non la quantità:
• perché la qualità del tempo di una mamma da pochi giorni, che rientra nel tritacarne della routine quotidiana, aggiungendo il carico della gestione di un neonato, può essere compromessa.
• perché un bambino non dovrebbe scegliere tra qualità e quantità, almeno nei primi mesi, dovrebbe disporre di entrambe le cose.
Per non parlare poi del fatto, che se un genitore non può permettersi qualcuno che tenga il bambino nella propria casa, nel corso the movement, exposes, with a wealth immunological still lacking, bad weather or the inevitable possibility of contamination present in a nest. Indeed, it is scientifically proven that children who go to the nest too early, or who are not breastfed are more likely to become ill, with economic loss for both families and the healthcare system. Then for heaven's sake, one could argue that there are children who become ill at home, or as happens in breastfed babies, but it's like telling a doctor, since there has been a smoker grandfather field 100 years, it is true that smoking is harmful.
We must therefore encourage virtuous behavior by a parent, even with the knowledge that children are not math, but you can do much to foster a harmonious growth, already from early childhood,
even during pregnancy. So I ask the Minister, to carry out its institutional role more seriously, trying to avoid statements out of place like this or like that "studying is not so important," Renzo Bossi taking as an example. It should engage more in analyzing problems, to avoid damaging misjudgments and positions for her, for others and for the country. Because maybe someone might have thought that after all his ministry was a minor, che se guidato da un giovane ministro senza competenze specifiche, “non poteva arrecare grossi danni”, soprattutto obbedendo ciecamente ai dettami del Tesoro, ma lei con la sua presunzione di voler parlare di cose che non conosce, sta contribuendo a minare il futuro di un’intera generazione. Un’ultima cosa, lei che di privilegi se ne intende bene, essendo un politico, la usi con maggiore pudore questa parola.
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